Healthy relationships allow choice
A healthy relationship does not require sex, and sexual activity is not proof of love or commitment. People may have different needs, identities, boundaries and levels of desire. Mutual respect includes being able to disagree safely and say no without fear.
Talking about needs
Choose a calm time to discuss what feels comfortable, contraception, STI testing, privacy and boundaries. Use “I” statements, listen without ridicule and avoid treating consent as a one-time conversation. Partners can revisit decisions as circumstances change.
Warning signs
Pressure, threats, monitoring, humiliation, reproductive coercion, unwanted sharing of intimate images or punishment for saying no are not healthy relationship behaviours. Seek trusted support if you feel unsafe or controlled.
Help and counselling
A qualified counsellor or healthcare professional may help with communication, distress or relationship concerns when it is safe and appropriate. Couples counselling is not always suitable where coercion or abuse is present; prioritise safety and specialist support.