Talk before the moment
Planning a conversation can reduce uncertainty and help both people make informed choices. It should never be used to pressure someone into activity.
- What are we both comfortable with, and what is off-limits?
- How will we check in and stop if either person wants to?
- What contraception or barriers do we want to use?
- Are there STI testing or exposure questions we should discuss?
- What will we do if a condom breaks or contraception fails?
- How will we protect each other’s privacy?
Respect the answer
Consent can be withdrawn at any time. A partner is allowed to say no, change their mind or choose not to discuss something. Safety and respect come before completing a plan.